Category: Manners Matter

  • Manners Matter: Jan. 8, 2016

    Dear Mary Pat, What do you think of a friend who never has dinner parties or group gatherings at her house, to reciprocate, because she doesn’t want to get her house dirty? Signed, RELAX Sturgeon Bay, Wis.   Dear RELAX, I think your friend might have some issues with perfectionism, or maybe she has OCD? […]

  • Manners Matter: Dec. 31, 2015

    Dear Mary Pat, My sister wants to get married on a Friday since it’s way more affordable. We keep trying to explain to her that some people might be late for the reception and most everyone will miss the church ceremony since it’s hard for guests to take off from work, or to get kids […]

  • Manners Matter: Dec. 23, 2015

    Dear Mary Pat, My girlfriend is really cheap. She hates to spend money. Her car has 289,000 miles on it and she will drive it till the wheels fall off. She bought the least expensive house she could find which needed a lot of repairs and will only work on the essentials. For the other […]

  • Manners Matter: How to Behave at Work Holiday Party

    Dear Mary Pat, I overindulged at my office party and not only did I wake up with a brutal hangover, I also can’t look certain co-workers in the eye. Some of the details are a little fuzzy, but I know I got into a political debate with my peer’s wife and may have also insulted […]

  • Manners Matter: Dec. 11, 2015

    By Mary Pat Dear Mary Pat, The holiday season is in full swing with Thanksgiving behind us and Christmas only weeks away. For Thanksgiving this year, my family went on a short trip. We all had off from jobs and school, and had a lovely time. Prior to the trip, we encountered a flurry of […]

  • Manners Matter: Dec. 4, 2015

    Dear Mary Pat, My brother’s best friend got married six months ago. I’ve known “Joe” for more than 25 years now. Joe and his fiancée were on a very tight budget and when they asked me to make their wedding cake to help save on cost, I was happy to do it. I’ve been baking […]

  • Manners Matter: Nov. 25, 2015

    Dear Mary Pat, I’ve always been into giving gifts. Big birthday gifts, little “just because gifts” and for Christmas…I was a gift giving fool. I had plans to do the same this holiday season until my hours got reduced at my job and my husband’s income slowed down to a mere trickle. How do I […]

  • Manners Matter: Thanksgiving Dining Dilemma

    by Mary Pat Dear Mary Pat, My mother-in-law has passed over the reigns to me for Thanksgiving dinner. I’m feeling a lot of pressure to cook for 23 people. She always made it look easy, but I know it won’t be for me. My mom passed away when I was young and I was never […]

  • Manners Matter: Not Trying to Be Nosy

    By Mary Pat Dear Mary Pat, I was checking out at the grocery store last weekend and noticed that the cashier had a cast on her hand and was struggling a little bit. She looked up at one point and I gave her a sympathetic smile and said, “Oh, what happened to your hand?” She […]

  • Manners Matter: Political Tug of War

    By Mary Pat Dear Mary Pat, The political season is heating up already and everywhere I go there is talk of the debates, who is still in the race, who is out, and we still have a year to go! I have very strong political convictions, however, I would rather not discuss them while waiting […]

  • Manners Matter: Oct. 30, 2015

    By Mary Pat   Dear Mary Pat, I don’t mean to sound too petty here, but I have trouble this time of year with the mass exodus of the county. I’m not talking about tourists and visitors, I’m talking about the residents who flee for warmer states for the winter. Door County is seasonal, and […]

  • Manners Matter: Not Looking for Advice

    By Mary Pat Dear Mary Pat, I’ve noticed that while updating friends about what’s going on in my life (the usual stuff: job, wife, kids, etc.), there is a tendency on their part to offer unsolicited advice. Mind you, I am not complaining during these conversations – more or less just sharing what my life […]

  • Manners Matter: Three’s A Crowd

    By Mary Pat Dear Mary Pat, Is there ever a nice way to tell someone you’d rather not hang out with their significant other? I have a friend I’ve grown close to but it seems that every other time I ask her to hang out, she’ll agree and then later ask if it’s okay if […]

  • Manners Matter: No Time to Chat at the Gym

      Dear Mary Pat, I just joined a local gym and although my time there is limited, it is still very precious to me. How do I let other gym-goers know that I don’t have time to chat? I’ve tried keeping my ear buds in but find that some people will stand there and wait […]

  • Manners Matter: Be the Positive Influence

    Dear Mary Pat, I am in my first year participating in school sports and on a personal level, so far so good! But on a team level, not so much. Whenever our coaches ask better of us, some of my teammates come up with excuses as to why they can’t try harder. They whine and […]

  • Manners Matter: It’s Not Worth A Family Feud

      Dear Mary Pat, Six months ago, my older brother (married, with children) had a hard time finding employment in the city where he lived. I helped him find a decent paying job here and let him stay with me rent-free in my tiny apartment while his wife looked for work here too. He stayed […]

  • Manners Matter

      Dear Mary Pat, My husband and I are new to the county. We’ve made friends and are adjusting pretty well considering we are starting from scratch. There have been a couple of people, however, who are a little too curious about us. One asked me why we don’t have children and another asked my […]