Letter to the Editor: Non-biased Pronoun Usage Is a Simple First Step

What’s all the fuss about pronouns? 

In the 1970s, when “he/him” was replaced with “he/she” and “him/her,” it was intended to treat women more fairly and inclusively. Today, the use of “they/them” pronouns invites fairness and inclusivity not based on any gender. 

Transgender people understand deeply who they are. Whether “he/him,” “she/her” or “they/them,” we need to learn to refute outdated societal conditioning. “They/them” is a big deal in our evolution of non-bias, (and yes, that includes getting used to the new grammar). If someone tells us in a pronoun how they identify themselves, it’s a sign for us to meet them on their terms. Using the correct pronoun says, “I see you.” 

Open Door Pride has met so many young people identifying as nonbinary and gender fluid. We are on a frontier of understanding the human body, our biodiversity and what really makes our gender beyond body parts. A human will is as personal as it is powerful. Introducing yourself with your pronouns – and hearing and learning someone else’s pronouns – are simple first steps.

Cathy Grier, she/her

Chair and Founding Member, Open Door Pride

Sturgeon Bay, Wisconsin