Manners Matter: Keeping Private Life Private

Dear Mary Pat,

My best friend is constantly posting pictures of me and my kids on her Facebook and Instagram accounts. I deliberately stay away from social media since I’m very private and my husband and I are concerned about our children’s pictures floating around in cyberspace. I’ve asked several times for my friend not to post anything with us in it, but she tells me I’m paranoid and worry too much. I’m starting to feel resentful of her dismissive attitude of a simple request. I shouldn’t have to ask again and again. How do I get through to her?


Positively Private

Sturgeon Bay, Wis.


Dear Positively Private,

You have to talk to your friend now. Don’t wait and let your irritation simmer. Call her up and explain to her that you are serious, you aren’t paranoid, and you just don’t want to have your pictures and family details being shared. Not everyone wants an online play by play of what they are doing. You shouldn’t have to explain yourself but maybe you can have a couple of reasons to give to your friend to help her understand where you are coming from. I’m sure she will see reason after you take the time to get your point across.

Good luck,

Mary Pat

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