Why Is It…?

“Why Is It…?” was designed by Dr. Steiner to address readers’ questions about human behavior from a social psychological perspective in order to inform and stimulate dialogue about the ways in which our thoughts, feelings and behaviors are influenced by the presence of other people. Dr. Steiner holds a Ph.D. in Applied Social Psychology. In addition to working as a university educator over the last 17 years, she conducts individual and group consultations in matters of social relationships and behavior. Readers are invited to submit their questions anonymously in one paragraph or less to Dr. Steiner at [email protected].

Q: Why is it that tourists and seasonal visitors influence the attitudes and behaviors of year round residents of Door County?

I have heard that some permanent residents are affected by living in a tourist community where so many people come to vacation. Is it really true that being around folks that are here to play affects the outlook of those who live here year-round?

A: As we all know, Door County is a wonderful community – rich in natural beauty, agriculture, fine arts and recreational opportunities. With endless miles of scenic shoreline, farmland, winding roads, and pastoral beauty, it’s no wonder so many choose Door County for their vacation destination, and seasonal or permanent home. But despite its inherent value, Door County also presents an interesting blend of social dynamics, where the tourist population comes face to face with those living here year-round. And depending upon the perspective, at times, the grass may always seem greener on the “other-side.”

Each season, thousands upon thousands of tourists flock to Door County to escape the hectic routines of their daily lives. Whether drawn here for outdoor activities, shopping, or as respite from urban lifestyles, many seek out the beauty and cultural experiences Door County has to offer. For those residents that work in the recreational, retail, or hospitality sectors, the influx of tourism also represents the influx of income. Many permanent residents eagerly anticipate the coming of each season, as their businesses welcome visitors with open-arms. However, for permanent residents working outside the tourism sector, the steady stream of tourists may appear somewhat different.

The dynamic reflected in your question relates to the social psychological theory of social comparisons – where we compare ourselves to others when rating our own degrees of worth or happiness. One type, referred to as “upward” comparisons, involves comparing our lives to others who we perceive to be “better-off” than we are. This tendency typically results in negative emotions and lowered self-esteem. In effect, how we feel about our own lives can be heavily influenced by where we stand in relation to others.

From the standpoint of some permanent residents, tourists may be perceived as sources of “upward” social comparisons. Because tourists are here vacationing, their days are spent focusing on play, recreation, and relaxation. For residents who are working hard every day, with little downtime for leisurely pleasures, the social contrast can be quite striking. Because the constant presence of tourists is difficult – if not impossible – to escape, constant exposure to a “play” mentality and lifestyle can be a difficult pill to swallow – when one only has the time, energy, and resources for work. With the exception of residents working in the tourism industry (who financially benefit from tourism dollars), some full-time, Door County locals may experience feelings of resentment and bitterness – as they find themselves surrounded by “better-off others” who appear “foot-loose and fancy free.”

In contrast, from the tourist perspective, perceptions of Door County residents are often reversed. Because Door County is viewed as such a beautiful and desirable place to be many tourists envy local residents, as they reluctantly return to their points of origin at the end of their vacations. From the point of view of many tourists, it is the locals who are indeed lucky and more fortunate – because we have the benefit of enjoying Door County, year-round, as part of our daily lives.

However, there’s a difference between the “ideal” notion of what it’s like to walk a mile in the shoes of a tourist or local resident – and the “actual” realities that frame our lives. While certainly fortunate to live in such a beautiful area, the realities of local Door County life is often combined with limited occupational opportunities, winter hardships, and difficulties managing the demands of an aging population. Those working in the tourism trade often labor 12-16 hour days, seven days a week for months on end – rarely capturing the opportunity for leisure time and recreation. And it’s important to realize that the realities of visiting tourists are also not readily apparent to residents, as locals only see them while “vacationing” – unaware of the struggles and hardships they may endure in their daily lives.

While it may appear that the “grass is always greener on the other side,” we all – resident and tourist alike – share the commonalities of life’s benefits and liabilities. So when judging ourselves in relation to others, remember to count your blessings and “bloom where you are planted” (Mary Engelbreit).