Article posted Wednesday, September 3, 2014 12:18pm

Dear Mary Pat,

I just started college in Milwaukee. I’m really missing all my friends from home and campus feels so much bigger than I imagined. To say I’m overwhelmed is an understatement. My roommate seems OK, but we don’t really have a lot in common and she seems more interested in finding the next party than hanging out. I’m just not sure how I’m going to fit in and I can’t wait for my first trip back to Door.

Signed,

College Blues

Milwaukee, WI

Dear College Blues,

Starting at a new school in a big city is a challenge and I would bet most of the freshmen feel the same way that you do, especially in the first couple of weeks. It takes awhile to find a solid group of friends and your roommate isn’t necessarily going to become your best friend. It is better, however, to get along with her as best you can since you will be sharing a small space for the next two semesters. You’ll slowly meet people in your classes, at meals and in your dorm. Be friendly, smile and know that you’re all in the same boat. Break out of your comfort zone and approach people.

It’s great to get into a routine when you are at school. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, maybe setting up a schedule would help you feel a little more settled. Once you have your dorm room set up and your class times down, things will be more manageable. Be sure to exercise since that helps your stress level, not to mention the gym is just another place to meet new friends.

Your friends from home are just a text or a phone call away. If they are away at school too, they are missing you as well. It’s OK to feel homesick and a little isolated. If things don’t steadily improve in the next couple of weeks, be sure to talk openly with your parents and/or your R.A. and tell them how you are feeling. Homesickness is OK, but if you feel you’re slipping more into a depression, ask for help.

Good luck,

Mary Pat