Category: Manners Matter

  • Manners Matter: Maintain Respect during Election Season

    Dear Mary Pat, The political ads have started, and election season is here. Ugh. I dread election years in regular circumstances, but this year is chaos on top of chaos. Friends are making assumptions about how I vote or how I should vote, and it’s exhausting. There aren’t exchanges of ideas anymore; rather, it’s people […]

  • Manners Matter: Not Ready for Visitors

    Dear Mary Pat, Our niece and nephews always stay with us when they visit Door County in late June. We’ve been telling them that we don’t want to confirm any plans just yet because we’re still concerned about the spread of the virus. Now that it’s getting closer, their parents want a firm answer so […]

  • Manners Matter: Speak Up Online … or Not?

    Dear Mary Pat, My friend and I differ on what we post on our business social-media accounts. I believe that you should take a stand for your beliefs and be as vocal as possible when you see something wrong or unjust. And I also think that as a business owner, I have a responsibility to […]

  • Manners Matter: Our Wedding, Our Way?

    Dear Mary Pat, My fiancé and I were supposed to get married in May, and obviously, we had to cancel. Our original wedding was supposed to have 265 guests and be fairly over the top, if I’m honest. We decided to hold off until next May and plan the exact same wedding then. After thinking […]

  • Manners Matter: Tired of Talking about COVID-19

    Dear Mary Pat, Are there other topics to discuss besides COVID-19? I didn’t even like to write that word because I’m so tired of talking about it all the time. I remember a time during the not-so-recent past when we used to talk about movies, sports, what our grandkids were up to, what our children […]

  • Manners Matter: Staying Put for Memorial Day Weekend

    Dear Mary Pat, My best friend wants to go away for Memorial Day with her husband. She wants us to go along, but my husband and I don’t think it’s safe yet.  Should I tell her the real reason or just make an excuse? Signed, Staying Put Sturgeon Bay, Wisconsin Dear Staying Put, She’s your […]

  • Manners Matter: Unplug!

    Dear Mary Pat, I was reminded last night that we do need to unplug from informational overload. My husband said that from now on, conversation at the dinner table won’t be about the virus or work, and that we all need to put our phones away in the evening.  He is absolutely right. We are […]

  • Manners Matter: Prefer to Shop Local

    Dear Mary Pat, We have been staying at home for a month and a half now and go out only when absolutely necessary – so really just to get groceries and supplies and to get some exercise with a quick walk around our neighborhood.  Our adult children live six hours away and are so worried about […]

  • Manners Matter: Feeling Overwhelmed

    Dear Mary Pat, I’ve had challenges in my business before, but none quite like this. To say that I feel overwhelmed and helpless wouldn’t come close to describing it properly. I have no idea when the season will start; I’ve had to lay off half my staff; and I’m working hard every day without getting […]

  • Manners Matter: Worried Mom

    Dear Mary Pat, My ex-husband and I split custody of our two middle school children. While we were married, he often accused me of being a “helicopter mom” and said I was too protective. I always thought that he wasn’t cautious enough when it came to our kids, and now because of this virus, I’m […]

  • Manners Matter: Neighbors Arriving

    Dear Mary Pat, I’m totally freaked out and annoyed. My neighbors have a second home here and have arrived already. They should have stayed in Florida. If I had their phone number, I would call them and give them a piece of my mind. Having more people here is putting us all at risk. Signed, […]

  • Manners Matter: Low on Funds

    Dear Mary Pat, I was supposed to see a concert in Green Bay at the end of April. It’s been rescheduled for mid-August, when I know I’ll be too busy to make it. They aren’t giving any refunds. I could really use that $70 right now because I’m out of work. Any suggestions?  Signed, Low […]

  • Manners Matter: Juggling It All

    Dear Mary Pat, My husband and I are finding it hard to juggle our work schedules (we’re both working remotely) while helping our three children with their schoolwork. I deliberately didn’t go back to work until my kids were old enough to be in school full time. They are obviously our first priority, but we […]

  • Manners Matter: Do Your Part to Slow Spread of COVID-19

    Dear Readers, This week certainly looks different than last week. A lot is changing due to COVID-19, and some are panicking. I’d like to remind everyone that although things seem to be spiraling out of control, we can all be doing our part in containing this virus. Please heed the warnings that have come from […]

  • Manners Matter: Saving for College, Not Spring Break

    Dear Mary Pat, I’m a junior in college, and my friends want me to go to Florida on spring break. I would love to go, but it’s not even close to being in my budget. My friends say that they can loan me the money, but I don’t feel comfortable with that. I also need […]

  • Manners Matter: Panicking about the Future

    Dear Mary Pat, I own a small lodging establishment in Fish Creek, and I’m really worried about this upcoming season. We have a road construction project scheduled for all of spring, and then there’s the coronavirus, which will most likely impede some of my hotel supplies coming in from overseas, and then it’s also an […]

  • Manners Matter: Caring for an Ailing Friend

    Dear Mary Pat, My friend has been struggling with lots of health issues during the last couple of months, and they still don’t know what’s wrong with her. I know she’s frustrated and doesn’t want to talk about each and every doctor appointment, but I don’t want her to think that I don’t care by […]

  • Manners Matter: Stop Communicating with Old Boyfriend

    Dear Mary Pat, My husband is jealous that I still communicate with my high school boyfriend on Facebook. He didn’t really have an issue with it until he realized that “Joe” is recently divorced. My hubby is not the jealous type, and he’s never shown any signs of insecurity in our relationship. I’m not interested […]

  • Manners Matter: Pause to Reflect after a Breakup

    Dear Mary Pat, My little sister’s boyfriend just broke up with her three days before Valentine’s Day, and she had gotten him a really expensive watch. She’s only 17 and still wants to give it to him because she says she lost the receipt. Personally, I think she’s hoping he will want to get back […]

  • Manners Matter: What’s All the Fuss about Valentine’s Day?

    Dear Mary Pat, My wife always wants me to make a fuss on Valentine’s Day. I think restaurants, jewelry stores and florists try way too hard to drain my wallet, and it’s kind of a made-up holiday. Why does my wife fall into this trap and have high expectations every year? After 22 years of […]